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    He observed what I did and analyzed how I responded. He explained that I was too quick to repent and admit my wrongdoing. In his experience, he usually calms down and waits for the authority to initiate the conversation. Then he can respond with poise and nobility, depending on their first words. He told me, "if they speak first, you've got them." When we start to accept and listen to others our knowledge broadens.
    His voice was gentle, and loving, and didn't sound like he was condemning you. This is the same person who imparted to me the knowledge to listen to God's voice, not man in the past. He's one of the many who influenced how I made decisions this year. 
    As I reflect on our moments together, this verse appeared in my mind: "When there are many words, wrongdoing is unavoidable, But one who restrains his lips is wise."(NASB)1 - Proverbs 10:19. Whether you are talking with a patron, supervisor, cousin, or even people who are in the community of faith, this verse is applicable. 


    There are two possible lessons that this verse entails. One is how our emotions truly affect the way we respond to unexpected scenarios, which brings us to the place where we have a tendency to explode. I'm not an expert in this area, there were a number of times where I shouldn't have said what I said because I hurt or offended someone. God commands us to speak the truth in a loving and gentle way. But the truth hurts.  
    Another lesson is that our stature of giving words becomes weightier.  Silence is a form of communication, whether you are speaking on stage, in a small group setting, or even in one-on-one conversations. It has a profound effect on the listener. 
    An article titled The Art Of Listening: Silent Communication in Leadership states, "Silence, in its profound simplicity, carries an eloquence and strength that can significantly enhance a leader’s effectiveness."2




Footnotes:
1 Bible Hub. https://biblehub.com/proverbs/10-19.htm (Accessed December 22, 2023')
2 Benjamin Laker, "The Art Of Listening: Silent Communication In Leadership," forbes.com, December 18, 2023, https://www.forbes.com/sites/benjaminlaker/2023/12/18/the-art-of-listening-silent-communication-in-leadership/?sh=6a052719331c (accessed December 22, 2023).


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